Valentines Day

This is a question to all you women-loving (and men-loving if that's your ting) gentlemen out there (apologies if I am assuming too much about the mm demographic here).

In a fortnight's time, Valentine's Day will be upon us. For the young, free and single, Valentine's Day will pass them by in the same way that Burns' night leaves no indelible mark upon those outside of Scotland (and most of those living in that place as well).

But for those of us with lady friends/lovers/other halves/significant others/wives, Valentine's poses a bloody tricky question. Do you go all out and spoil your lady, over-doing things by throwing chocolates, flowers, a meal at a restaurant and a trip to the theatre/cinema/dog-track*? Or do you take a more subtle approach and treat Valentine's as a day where you buy her nothing but deliver caring and cost-effective comments such as 'your hair does look like it is attached to your head' and 'I do love the way that you have two eyes'.

If you plump for the former, you risk having to out-do your performance year on year, lest the lady in your life begins to doubt your continuing love. If you plump for the latter, well, you're basically saying that you couldn't be arsed.

What does mm think? Where is the line to be drawn between extravagence and neglect?

*not literally. Past experience says this is a mistake and one your lady companion will not forgive in a hurry. If she survives the deluge of objects flying through the air in her general direction

Disclaimer: comments will not be used as the basis of my treatment of Fiona this Valentine's. As you all know, I'm a soppy romantic at heart and have a veritable carnival of show- and heart-stopping moments planned for that weekend.